Because you are married, you cannot be treated as single. You can file a joint return, or you can opt to file as “married filing separately.” However, if spouses live apart and meet certain tests, one may qualify to file as head of household instead of married filing separately. To do this, you must have a qualifying person live with you (or a dependent parent even if not living with you); a spouse is not a qualifying person.
A specialized domestic relations court order that conforms to IRS regulations and provides instructions to pension plan administrators and IRA custodians as to how to pay benefits to a divorced spouse.