If you are experiencing difficulties with the IRS, know your rights as a taxpayer. Read the Taxpayer Bill of Rights (https://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/p1.pdf). Also consider contacting the National Taxpayer Advocate service (https://taxpayeradvocate.irs.gov/contact-us). And you may want to engage a tax professional who can represent you in this matter.
Return filed by a married person who does not file a joint return. Filing separately may save taxes where each spouse has separate deductions, but certain tax benefits require a joint return.